To control your mind and control your temper is something which can be done by everyone. It does sound easy, isn’t it? But to really do it may be difficult. Many people want to be in control of their mind power but find it very hard to do so. You would need the will to really want to change and recognize the fact that being bad temper is harmful to you both in the physical and psychological sense. What’s more, you would definitely leave a bad impression to those who know you. Hence, it is both important and necessary to learn how to control your temper effectively.
Just like any ordinary day, I had just completed my shopping list and was in the queue waiting for my turn to pay for the items. But today, there was something different.
“I was here first and you cut the queue!” One of the ladies behind me snorted.
“No, you are the one who cut my queue, I was here before you!” The other lady shouted back.
The heated argument ended with one of the ladies slamming her packet of sugar on the counter before walking away furiously, leaving the other lady behind feeling extremely crossed.
I thought of giving up my turn to let them pay first but eventually decided not to because there is still a question as in who would take my place. After finally paying my items, I left with a few questions flowing through my mind.
1. How much time can one lose to wait for another person to pay?
2. Why get so crossed for that few minutes and lost all your happiness for that same period of time?
3. What have one gain by being so particular about being the first in the queue to pay?
4. Why make yourself look so bad in public?
5. Is such bad manner the cause of bad parenting and upbringing?
In most cases, a person would tend to regret after getting so exasperated at something that is so inconsequential. I bet at least one of the two ladies should be feeling bad right now. So how can someone start controlling one’s temper by using the mind power?
Let say if another person has just done something which seems to have got in your nerves and you think your blood is beginning to boil. Now what most people usually will do is burst with anger and start behaving wrathfully and unreasonably. And to do that is just to act on impulse and I believe in most cases would only make the whole situation worse and more unpleasant.
Train your mind to give a second thought before acting. Think about all the negative outcomes from losing your temper now and the likely consequences that follow. Always remind yourself that there is absolutely nothing to gain when you are acting with rage. I don’t mean contemplating but at least just a few seconds can really make a lot of difference.
When you give yourself more time, you will become calmer and as such you will be in a better position to see a clearer picture and deal with the problem more effectively. When you have foreseen the negative consequences of being furious, you are in a way changing your focus. When your focus is no longer on what got in your nerves, you anger will naturally subside.
I personally feel that to control your mind so as to control your temper is the most effective way. When you train yourself to do this, you are in way conditioning yourself to behave this way whenever you feel your blood is beginning to boil. Ultimately, your control becomes a habit which is part of your nature and very soon, those who know you will stop associating you with a hot head. You just have to remind yourself that it is all a matter of how strong your power of mind is. Make it a goal to make some changes to yourself from today!